I'm Not Sure I Want To Marry Him

Dear Whitney and Liria,

I've been engaged for almost 2 years. I can't bring myself to actually get married for a few reasons: he is marginally employed and seemingly unmotivated and he is a rather angry man at times (hates the world, children, old people, traffic, rain, what have you). That said, we do get along fabulously in other areas. However, his lack of funds have become my lack of funds (my fault, I'm aware), and his outbursts, are, well, loud and scary.

Do I stay or do I go? I've been in limbo for a while now. I recently rented my own place and because he hadn't made sufficient plans for a living arrangement, he put all his belongings in storage, got himself a PO Box and is living with me (at times).

I hate to see him out on his backside, because I do care about him. I just am concerned for my future. I'm 29, for the record. And I'm not getting any younger.

Halting at the Altar

Whitney Says:

Dear Halting,

There are times when nothing but quoting The Clash will do. This is one of those times. As the question on the table is, "Should I stay or should I go?" I must quote: "If I go there will be trouble...And if I stay it will be double." That's the nut baby. Going will be hard, staying will be suicide.

You are obviously aware that the world-hating, children-hating, old-people-hating, traffic-hating, rain-hating man isn't for you (I mean really, who hates the rain?). After all, if he were the ONE, you would not be plagued with all these doubts.

As for living with you? Ixnay on the oyfriendbay ohabitaioncay! My advice is to thank him for the memories, suggest anger management counseling, have the locks on your doors changed, reclaim your finances, and make a big pitcher of my delicious SEX ON THE BEACH to celebrate your freedom!

At twenty-nine, it's time to kick this boy-man to the curb and start shopping for a gem.

Whitney

Liria Says:

Okay Darlin',

Why are you halting?

You've got a lot to look forward to if you marry this man. You can start by carrying him over the threshold (every girls dream) and then attach a shackle to your ankle so that he'll have something to hold on to as you carry him through the rest of your life.

Compassion is an important quality... and you've taken it to a ridiculous extreme. While we never like to see the people we love on their backsides, staying wth this loser is gonna land you squarely on your own.

Cut the cord babe. He may sink. He may swim. You will be free to soar!

Comments

[Veronica From Mars]

It is SO hard to break up with someone that you’ve been with for such a long time! I know, I’ve been there. BUT Halting, please leave him ASAP! It’s the temper you have worry about. Drop him now and the future is WIIIIIIIIIDE open
Veronica

[Claudia]

Whitney and Liria,
Neither one of you guys seem to care that Halting said she had a lot in common with her guy. You both picked on the negatives and I don’t think you were being fair.
Claudia

[Whitney]

Dear Claudia,
Have you ever heard of weighing the good against the bad? Halting mentioned many negative characteristics as in he hates children, rain, old people, traffic, AND has a scary temper. She barely glossed over the thought that they get along in other ways. Me thinks that’s for a reason. We do not always vote for breaking up, but in this case it seems warranted.
Whitney

[Lynn]

This guy has got to go! 29 is not too old to be back out in the market - after all if you marry him chances are you will be anyways and when that happens not only will you be that much older but you may have children, more debt, etc… all the things really great guys love!

[Betty's Boop]

Please… why is everyone so desparate to stay with losers. Whitney’s right (again, I might add) have a drink and say your good-byes