I Gave Him My Number...

Dear Whitney and Liria,

I met a guy at my friend's birthday party last weekend and he asked for my phone number. I still haven't heard from him. What do I do? Should I call him?

Anxious

Whitney Says:

Dear Anxious,

Ah, the age old question; should I wait for him to ring me or should I bite the bullet and call first? I tend to be a little old fashioned about things like calling the boy before he's called you. I worry that you might appear too easy. My suggestion is to talk to your friend and find out the particulars on this fella ASAP. If he is indeed a nice guy, have your friend ring him up. Have her casually ask him if he met any nice gals at her party. Then have her relay that her friend, Anxious (you), has already been called by three different men. Bottom line: she plays stupid, all the while letting him know what a popular dish you are. Sometimes the simpler sex needs to know that the object of their desire is also desired by others. It helps to get the ball rolling. While you're waiting for this to all play out, whip up a pitcher of my MARVELOUS MANGO MARGARITAS... the time will pass quicker.

Chin up Cupcake and keep me posted,

Liria Says:

Dear Anxious,

There's nothing wrong with giving a guy your number. Where you fell off the turnip truck was waiting for him to call you. Next time, if you're interested get his number. That way you're in the driver's seat. Speaking of driver's seats, you might want to try a little trick our Whitney uses. She has a business card without ANY contact information on it. And she's the dominitrix of cookies in Hollywood because of it. Moral of this story, oh anxious one, they all want what they can't get... at least at first... at least easily. Believe me, I've been easy one too many times, and you don't want any part of THAT!

Withold and Win!

Comments

[Emily]

I’m a liberated woman so I believe in calling guys first. The problem is that both guys I called were surprised that I phoned them and they both made excuses not to get together.
MEN!

[Ginny From the Block]

I’m liberated too but I’ve found that when I call a guy first, he automatically assumes that I’m easy. Like they’re surpirsed when I don’t put out on the first date… We need some new rules here that both men and women know about!

[Claudia]

I’m going to make these Mango Margaritas for my birthday party next week! They sound yummy Here’s some good new for Anxious… the date to my party is a guy I met in a bar and called first!!! I’ll keep ya’all posted on how things progress, but right now? Fingers crossed…

[Anna]

Let’s assume this guy is like a lotta guys. He put your phone number in a pile and forgot if you are the cleaning lady, the receptionist from doctor’s office, or the hot babe he met at the party. Unless his memory is stimulated by — let’s say — a friend (as per Whit’s advice), he probably will never call. Men need help.

I met a hot guy several summers ago at the beach and gave him my number on a newspaper…which was thrown in the trash later that night. Thank God I kept his card for months — and finally sent a message through a male friend to alert him that I was available and interested. AND, he gave him my phone number. My phone rang immediately. We went out. We clicked. We were married last year.

[Bella]

If the guy is truely interested, he will call. If you haven’t heard from him in a week move on. Not to be brutal, but he either met someone else or he’s just not that into you. Guys tend to be pretty straight forward if they really want something!

[Southern Cookie]

Have your friend call for you and see if he’s interested - may sound like 5th grade but it works

[S]

Hey, I work at a hospital and give a first year resident MD student (who I heard from someone was interested in me) my #...did I do the right thing?