Sex With A Friend
Dear Whitney & Liria,
I am currently not dating anyone but I still find myself with needs. My friend Phil is in the same boat. We are thinking about sleeping with each other just to satisfy our physical desires. Do you think this is a good idea?
Looking for a good time
Whitney Says:
Dear Looking,
If Phil is already your friend and you're attracted enough to each other to consider fornication, why aren't you dating? It is in fact ideal to be friends with your mate before you actually mate. Therefore, I would say no to your plans of no-strings-attached sex. There are ALWAYS strings. Make Phil take you out to dinner and court you properly. Then on the morning after... you can make him my SOUR CREAM COFFEE CAKE as a reward.
Have some standards!
Liria Says:
Dear Looking,
I feel your pain. Here's the thing you want to remember, and mark my words; the minute, I mean the millisecond you realize he's a good lover, you will be writing asking for more advice. You will be incapable of playing by the rules YOU made. He, on the other hand, will wonder how it got so complicated. He will regret the strain on your friendship but, being a guy, he won't actually ever talk to you about it. You will want, you will ooze want. You will pine, you may lament, you're likely to cry and frankly, I'd like you to SHUT UP!
By the way, if he's lousy in bed, there goes the friendship too. You deny it, but it's true. How will you ever be able to be a supportive friend with that smirk on your face? In conclusion?
Just say NO!
What’s wrong with Phil that you wouldn’t consider dating him in the first place?
Ginny
Posted by: Ginny From the Block | July 30, 2006 at 11:46 AM
Okay, here it is. Phil is a plumber. I know this makes me sound REALLY shallow. He’s a great guy and all, I just see myself with a white collar guy.
Looking For a Good Time
Posted by: Looking for a Good Time | July 30, 2006 at 11:47 AM
Wow, you’re right. That’s totally shallow! I’m pretty sure Phil doesn’t deserve you. He may not be a fancy lawyer, but plumbers make alot of money!
Ginny
Posted by: Ginny From the Block | July 30, 2006 at 11:48 AM
No wonder you’re not dating right now, you are limiting yourself on available guys. Try getting over your social snobiness and date Phil first before you sleep with him - and you might want to ask why he hasn’t considered dating you?
Posted by: Lynn | July 30, 2006 at 11:48 AM